FALIBE,
THIS IS WHY DARKER-SKINNED WOMEN SUFFER THE INFERIORITY COMPLEX
Inferiority complex is no joke people, we tend to look at it as well she is inferior she should learn to love herself and all that... but what we do not know is that it may lead to serious depression and self-damage.
A lot of women now suffer from skin cancer that has been caused by bleaching agents like creams and serums. Most of these women feel like they need to do more to look pretty and what would you do if you have been told time and time again that you are good but there is better and that you are ok but there is more.
It is so bad that even dark skin women start practising the same to their children and imagine telling that to a 5-year-old, the damage goes a long way right?
The truth is we pass on this topic, we let it be, but I think it is very important to know why are dark skin women so scared to show skin or be in their own skin, here is why:
1. It all started with the bride price
Traditional African marriage says a man has to visit the soon to be bride’s family accompanied with a spokesperson, it could be an uncle or whoever that would represent the groom and ask for the hand in marriage. At this point the bride’s family, if agreed, should issue out a bride price they are expecting to get on their daughter’s head but you see it doesn’t end there, traditionally a lighter-skinned woman would be issued a higher bride price if you have other specifications like coily neck the price would go higher and higher.
Those days are over, but this tradition, at least on the skin side still remains to some extent in some families. So think that you are the only darker-skinned woman in your family, all your sisters were issued a certain amount but you, oh... you had to be cheaper, how would that make you feel? If you feel something then that’s good! You are still alive but if you don’t, that is even worse because you do not even see what is wrong and chances are you would do the same to your daughter/ son.
2. Colonialism Made Things Worse
Although the tradition existed before and after colonialism, it only got worse, it messed up with everyone but the worse part we didn’t let it go after it passed, instead, we thought “see, white people, rank first then light skin”
3. Crossing Boundaries That Shouldn’t Be Crossed.
The one thing I love about Africa and our people is just how kind and friendly we are, but where does friendship end and harassment begin? It starts as small as class jokes, making fun of that one girl/boy in class (ok let's say they are kids and don't know better) then it goes to work, where professionalism is tossed out and we encourage ridiculous jokes that we become overbearing and constantly crossing lines we shouldn’t. Commenting on how someone looks in my opinion (unless it’s about fashion) is just rude!
So what do you think should be done? how do you suggest we can get rid of such mentalities or worse has this ever happened to you? Share your experience let us know how you take this situation.
Should we just get used to it because it has always been that way? or should we fight it and make a better place for us and our future generation?
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